“Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.” – Unknown
Perfection of today is in our estimation of perfection. Not everything goes according to our own personal plan in every moment. How can it? Others agenda’s are not as our own. But we can choose whether or not something that happens is going to affect us deeply in a negative way or just make us take notice. We can choose, in the face of adversity, to look with compassion on others. To do something if we can. In some instances that means that we avoid injuring them further. If need be, to say we have injured them make amends and compassionately choose not to injure them further.
And what if there is sadness in our day? What if there is a friend or family member who is injured or falls ill or, in what we as humans find one of the worst case scenario’s, they pass away? I see this a lot with some of the friends I have in my life whose life at this moment means dealing with a currently “in-curable” illness. How are we to be happy? We’re not. Tears and sadness are not an evil thing. They are not something to push away.
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight. ~Kahlil Gibran
We are all blessed when we have someone in our life that to lose them hurts so much. But if we’ve chosen to live a life of happiness,thanksgiving, gratitude and love, what we will have when that time comes is the good memories we’ve made important. We will most likely have some regrets, but if we’ve lived a life focusing on what is good, and loving and kind in life with those people we love and care about we will necessarily have less regret. Less remorse. And with the passing of time, less sadness.
When our day is filled with things that are troublesome or irritate us it is our chance to turn the other cheek. This phrase doesn’t only apply to disagreements or wrongs done to us or as in literal interpretations if someone physically accosts us. It applies to anything that comes our way that tries to rob us of the joy or happiness in our life. Turn the other cheek! Don’t give it, the person or event, the power to make us focus on what is not our day. Turn away back to the light and warmth of the sun. Turn your face away, turn to a happy thought or memory or time in the day.
“Don’t let what is not good today become your memory of yesterday for tomorrow.”
©Adrienne McLeod 2011