How often do we recognize our relationships? How do we recognize and deepen our relationships. When we make a phone call, send a text, give a hug or a smile these are all actions that we do when we have a relationship with another human being. How often do we consciously engage in our relationships? Are we present in that moment specifically thinking about our input into the relationship as we make those actions?
Are we attentive in the moment when speaking with someone we have a close relationship to? Often it seems we are not. We can not be actively listening if we are talking over another person. Living our lives consciously, actively, with a purpose, depends a great deal on living the moment and focusing on now; giving our full attention to it.
What about our relationship with God? Do we actively seek out our relationship with God? Or is our relationship with God just one in passing? Do we give our full attention to our relationship with God?
Any relationship whether with an animal, an employer, a spouse, a child or a sibling is greatly strengthened by consciously being present in that relationship. It is not the quantity of time but the quality and the attentiveness while we are engaging actively in the day to day aspects of our relationships that strengthen our relationships. The same holds true for our relationship with God.
My relationship with the God of my understanding has been a gradual one, like any other relationships of importance it has deepened over time. Deepening in trust, faith, intensity, respect and gratitude. I am constantly being amazed by the power of the presence of God in my life. The more I am consciously aware, active and attentive and grateful in my relationship the stronger and more beautiful it becomes.
I remember most of my life, my Dad spending time in his relationship with the God of his understanding. I remember the time he spent after church when he would sit and contemplate and think. I remember first thing in the morning the time he would get up and read and then spend time meditating and conversing with God. I remember the time spent writing sermons. It took me a long time to understand the consistency of his routine. Wasn’t a relationship with God simply, “I believe “x”. Thank you for everything great and oh, by the way if you could help with this it would be great?”
I remember my my Mum, spending time reading, deepening her understanding of and relationship with the God of her understanding. Her time spent meditating in the energy of her spiritual life and sometimes her doubt and questioning in it lead her to an even deeper sense of the all encompassing nature of God.
With them both, there was much quiet time spent in their conscious relationship with God. I often wondered what they were thinking about in all that quiet. But I think about it now and I think perhaps it was listening to God, cultivating their understanding, becoming still enough to hear and understand. It was asking to understand His will for them and being attentive and active in their relationship with God. I have in them both ~ great teachers.
Developing a relationship with a person,means consciously taking the time to get to know them. Learning about them, trying to understand them, listening to them, sharing with them, being grateful to them, questioning what is not understood and actively listening to their answers. It means being attentive. It means consciously being present in the relationship. And so it is with our relationship with the God of our understanding.
©Adrienne McLeod 2011